Are you ready for 16 Red Flags to look out for when you are in an relationship?
This blog post contains the red flags /signs that close friends and I saw but chose to ignore.
You know the ones that when you think about them after the relationship finally ends, you think “Why didn’t I leave then?” Or the classic – “I should of left when…”
Before you even start reading any more of this post I want to make a few things clear, I am not a relationships expert – I am pretty crap at relationships but I am a person who learns from my mistakes and notices habits and patterns. Although there are no names in this post #BeKind, I can assure you that the sources of the materials used in this post are parties I know and yes that includes myself.
These are signs to look out for and not scenarios to create. That’d be really unhelpful. My suggestion – Read it, have a laugh, think about it, read it again, remember it, share it with a friend, bookmark it, discuss with a friend, follow me on Instagram and don’t forget this post.
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Day 17: "Babe, lend me £50"
Them asking to borrow money is not bad presay BUT asking to borrow money waaaay too early on in the relationship is a definite Red Flag.
The beginning of the relationship is where we show each other us and where we set the pace (set boundaries) for the relationship.
Now can you see why it is a Red Flag?
"You're being petty, it's just my ex."
If they drop these lyrics on you and/or they seem fine with you being uncomfortable with the string of calls that they are receiving from their exes… this is Red Flag. A big one.
“Sorry, they only had one”
If they come back from the shop with one of the chocolate bar that you asked them to get and it’s not for you… this is what I call “Badmind” , this is a Red Flag. Keep an eye out of for this kind of selfish/ thoughtless behavior.
“My ex is crazy, I don’t know why they keep calling”
2021 We know that this is not always the case, is a classic tactic.
If it is true, your partner blocking, ignoring and/or changing their number will prove that.
If they don’t then there’s your Red Flag.
"I forgot that you don't drink Cow's milk"
You ask them to pick up milk on the way over and they arrive with Cows Milk (you only drink everything but). “Like do you even know me?” Red Flag.
If there has been 3 pay days (that’s three months) since they borrowed money from you and still haven’t paid it back.
A huge Red Flag. No respect.
Oh and you’re probably not getting your money back either.
"I can do that but, you can't".
Their expectations of you and what you should be giving to the relationship doesn’t seem to match what they are bringing to the relationship. It’s 2021 people – Red Flag here.
“Errm, who are you?”
Everyone calls them by another name. Yes, there is such thing as a nickname and it is possible but everyone. Ask the question – “Errm who are you?” because this could be a possible Red Flag.
"I don't believe in romance"
Woah… huh… okay people … if you are an romantic person and they knew this before then… this is a Red Flag.
Why? Think about it.
"Oh go on, you know you want to..."
If you keep saying “No” and they cannot hear you. Huh.This is a huge ‘Red Flag‘.
Listen, being pestered until you give the answer they want is… manipulation >> Emotional & Mental Abuse.
"What about me?"
Sex takes two (at least), comfortably satisfying your partner is part of it but, if you find yourself thinking “What about me?” then… there’s your Red Flag.
"I want to come back"
Uh oh, the return of the ex. The RED FLAG.
Be careful, be very careful. I am not saying that it will not work because sometimes it does work out. However, polish that memory of yours and start try playing spot the difference. In my past experience, it usually takes up to 10 weeks to start seeing why I left in the first place.
Jokes aside, how many of these can you relate to?
The chances are that we’re describing the Traits of a Narcissist.
In denial? Okay like I said I am not an expert by qualification but, I have had the experience.
But like me, you’ll need more proof, don’t you?
Check these out, in your own time.
Blessings and Love